The truth is that most people don’t put any thought into the username they create when they join an online dating website.
And even if they do put some thought into the username, it’s usually something personal to them, rather than something that conveys a positive message to others on the dating site.
As an example, let’s take this real life username (-2 digits to protect their identity) from Plenty of Fish:
As you can see, this person is basically saying they love burgers and were born in a certain year.
This was a female dating profile. Think about it. This lady is telling people she loves to eat burgers.
What passes through your mind when you think that? It doesn’t matter if you are male or female, you are instantly thinking she might be a bit fat and unhealthy.
In short, it’s not a positive username, it conveys negative imagery. The poor lady who used this username properly didn’t even think about it in that detail. She was an average looking lady, and certainly not fat. But I can guarantee she will get less serious contact because of that username.
Experiment With Good Profile Names
So now you understand the golden rule about conveying a positive message to others, experiment with creating a good online dating name before you actually sign up to a dating site.
The reason you need a good username is because your entire profile needs to hit the spot in order for you to attract the right people. Or, if you’re a guy, get a response from the ladies you contact.
Especially if you are a guy, you need to experiment with creating a positive username. Girls can get away with it far more, but if you’re male, then online dating has to be done at a whole different level of seriousness if you want to get dating offline.
Let’s look at some real-life male username examples to reinforce the point:
The last one especially is just downright scary. The first thing you would be looking at when you saw that username is whether his photos showed a scar on his face. It’s not positive imagery.
And using terms like loverboy and sexual position numbers, such as 69 or 101 is basically insane.
If you use names it convey sexual connotation, a lack of thought, or just randomness, you will make the majority of females pass your profile over.
It also applies to females in the same way, although oddly it works in reverse. If you use any sexual connotation in your username, you will attract all the wrong type of guys and will be absolutely inundated with stupid messages.
If you use something which conveys a negative physical traits, you will instantly make men think you have that trait.
I’m deadly serious on that point ladies. Use the word “cuddly” in your profile and guys will think you’re a clingy, podgy (fat) housewife.
A Great Dating Name Makes A Huge Difference
If you are still uncertain as to whether a good username really does make a difference, consider this example:
Doesn’t sound a very exciting name does it?
That’s why his stage name is Tom Cruise.
Regardless of how shallow it is, lots of actors take stage names because their real names are simply not captivating enough. It’s the same in online dating.
It really won’t take you long to come up with some good online dating names, just get a pen and paper and start brainstorming.
Write down things about yourself, things you aspire to be, places you want to go, or just positive character traits in general.
Try to weave together something positive and recognisable, which will help your online dating profile to rise above the rest.