Let’s face it, online dating makes everyone superficial.
You go onto an online dating site with the best of intentions and end up like everyone else, scrolling through the list of available dates looking at the photos.
Very occasionally you might be stopped by great online dating profile headline, and very occasionally you might even click into a dating profile and read the text.
But mostly, we all just look at the photos for the people we find the most attractive.
So now we have faced up to this embarrassing superficiality, let’s go through five online dating profile photo tips to make you more accessible.
1. Don’t use blurry photographs
If someone is having to squint to try and see what you look like, then you have failed. If they can’t see your face clearly, they are going to move on.
It also smacks of laziness. If everyone else can find a decent photograph, why couldn’t you be bothered?
2. Never use a photo of a photo
It’s really obvious if you take a photo on your phone of an existing hardcopy photograph. It makes people wonder why you have done it.
People will think if the only good photo of you is one you have hanging on your wall, then there must be something wrong with you.
It will also make people wonder if it is a very old photo, taken before you had access to taking photos digitally. Are you really as old or young as you say you are?
So just take a photo right now and upload it!
3. Make the photos just of yourself
Never, ever use a photo of yourself with a friend of the opposite sex, or an ex-partner.
No matter who it is, people will think more deeply about it than they should. They may think it’s your ex, in which case they will wonder if they match up. They will wonder if it’s a friend you have some sort of ongoing flirtation with, which could present a conflict issue for them if you get on.
Or they could think it is another one of your dates, and wonder how many you have gone on and what your commitment level is.
4. Never have a single photo on your dating profile
The golden rule is to have at least three photos and preferably five on your profile.
One should be a full body shot, one should be a close-up with your head and shoulders and the remaining photos should be activity shots to show that you don’t spend your entire life laying in bed…or surfing online dating sites!
5.Your dating profile photos should be current
When we say current, we mean within the past 12 months. If not, people will spot that you seem to be aged differently in the photos.
If you are a woman, completely different hairstyles or colours will create confusion. What colour hair do you now have? Some people try to offset this by stating which photo is the most current, but that just makes people wonder why you are using old photos even more.
If there are no photo’s of yourself available, then do a selfie for your profile. A quick look will show you that everyone else is doing it as well!
So try to make your photos as current as possible and make them reflect you as you are now, not you are your best, or you is you used to be.