You may find that an astonishing question to ask. But if you spend any time looking through online dating profiles, you will realise that racism is openly stated and tolerated.
Amazingly, it is also a gender specific tolerance.
Now I’m not saying that people don’t have preferences, and I’m not saying that they should not express those preferences on a dating profile. Let’s face it, everyone has different tastes in people, everyone has a different “type”.
But what I am talking about in this article is something different.
The simple fact is, that if you scroll through female dating profiles you will see some clearly state a strong racial preference.
Almost without variation, it is white working class females looking for black men.
These profiles will openly state they are only looking for black men, and that they are not interested in white men.
Now you may be thinking “so what?”.
But let’s turn that on its head.
If you saw a male profile where a white man was saying they were only interested in black females, or more usually Asian females, you would put it down as a sexual kink or racism.
For some reason, if it’s a lady expressing racial preference then that’s fine. But if it’s a man expressing racial preference, than they are sexually dysfunctional or racist.
So what’s the truth?
I think there is a strong element of the sexual fantasy from the female point of view let’s be honest, we all know that black men are meant to be more well endowed than white men. My guess is that some women, specifically from backgrounds which allow them to be more brutal in expressing their sexuality, buy into that.
It’s the same with guys, but more usually it’s white guys looking for Asian women.
But the point here is that outsiders looking at those preferences being stated in a profile will tend to view them in a completely different light.
What do you think? Is a white woman who expresses an interest in any black men racist or expressing a cultural/sexual preference?
If you see a man expressing the same preferences do you come to the same conclusions?
Race and gender are very complex, and this spills over into online dating, where the ability to be very picky and state preferences you wouldn’t in the street can make is a very strange reading.
Ask yourself this question. Would it be fine with you if you saw a white male profile who stated that they were only looking for a white female? I suspect for may of you, the answer is “No.”
Finally, just in case you don’t think there is racist element at work sometimes, let me tell you a little story.
I contacted a white lady on a dating site because she had put on her online dating profile that she only wanted to speak to black men.
So I contacted her and asked her why she only wanted to speak to black men. I asked if she didn’t find me or other white men attractive
Her reply was that she did find white men attractive, but, and I quote, “I like the darkies because they have bigger c**** and more stamina”.
Next time you see a woman, or a man, expressing racial preferences on the profile, just ask yourself how innocent is their filtering based on the colour of skin.