There are some truly scary cases of online dating gone wrong out there.
But it doesn’t all have to be murder stories. In this article I’m going to share with you three completely true stories from my own online dating experiences using Match, Plenty of Fish and OkCupid during the course of six very odd months of my life, where online dating went very wrong!
Everything you are about to read here is completely true. Only names have been changed to protect the innocent.
Online Dating Gone Wrong: Something To Hide
So I met this lovely girl called Claire. She was a brunette, seemed intelligent and with it. Okay, in her photos she looked a little bit thin and gaunt, but I put that down to the quality of the photos.
We had a really good first date. We talked for three hours and everything seemed really good. She did seem very thin, and I did wonder if she had an eating disorder, but decided to have another date before asking such a personal question.
However, I didn’t ever have to ask that question. We had a second date, but it wasn’t really a date, more a confessional.
After the initial chitchat had died away, her first revelation was that she did indeed have an eating disorder and had since she was 11. On top of that, she was addicted to laxatives.
And not only that, she also had a serious speed habit. She took the speed for two reasons. The first was to keep herself thin.
The second reason was because she was addicted to it and had been since she had used it to block out the pain of having all three of her children taken into care.
At this point I didn’t really know what to say.
Her story was that she had had three very abusive partners, and three children with them, two she claimed were through rape. She turned to alcohol and drugs, while retreating into her eating disorders to cope. The net result was that she completely neglected her children. Social services intervened and through reasons I couldn’t quite fathom, the abusive partners got the children in all three instances.
On top of that, she then announced that the courts had a declared she was unsafe to have custody of children, due to accusations of physical and emotional abuse on her kids. She said these were all false accusations, but the courts had upheld the ruling.
As I had a four year old son, she pointed out we could never have relationship until he was 18.
Just when I was seriously reeling, she then opened her mouth and showed me that her back teeth were brown and melted from the stomach acid destroying them during bouts of Bulimia.
At that point however, I said I think it was for the best if we just left things. I made my excuses and got the hell out of there.
Online Dating Gone Bad: Thunder Thighs And Rape
The next girl I met was an almost total blind date. She was on plenty of fish, but only had one photo of her face. She was plain but seemed fun, so I thought what the hell.
We met in a local pub, and I spotted a mile off that she had legs the size of a hippo. Now I know people will call me shallow, but I’m afraid it just didn’t do it for me. But rather than upset her, I decided to just have a drink and talk nicely for an hour.
Not only did she have huge thick legs, but it also turned out she was still reeling from her previous relationship. Her last partner, who had only split up with her week before, had just announced to her that he had to go back up north to face charges for assaulting his previous partner.
She then proceeded to break down and cry in the middle of the pub. So I was sitting there, comforting a girl with thunderous thighs who I never intended to see again, while listening to her relate the story about her ex for over an hour.
Marvellous.
Online dating Gone Wrong: You Won’t Believe This One
So far my online dating gone wrong stories sound realistic. And I assure you they are.
But this one will probably make you think I’m yanking your chain.
Again, I assure you that what I am telling you here really did happen in a six-month period.
The third girl I met we will call Sarah.
Sarah seemed nice, we had a phone call and some online chats before meeting, and everything seemed okay. I asked her a few vetting questions, having now got my defences up, but everything seemed fine. So I had high hopes.
How wrong I was.
The first revelation on our one and only date, was that Sarah had lied about how many children she had. In her dating profile she said she had two children.
It turned out she had six.
She also told me she had a car. She didn’t.
She also told me she lived in the same town as me. It turned out she lived 25 miles away.
Still reeling from this, I barely had time to consider how to get out of there, before she hit me with the next revelation.
She said she was looking for a man who liked rough sex. But not just any old rough sex, she said that because her previous partners had hospitalised her several times, she had grown to enjoy extremely violent sex. Not just spanking, or bit of rough handling or light tying up, but serious violence.
She wanted to be intimately cut with a knife. She wanted to be punched in the face. She wanted to be choked until she passed out. She was also looking for a man who would bring his friends home to basically attack her and leave her beaten on the floor.
Now I thought just for a second she was joking. But I could see in her eyes she was serious. There was darkness about her, a soulless look in her eyes, an emptiness. I could sense she was telling the truth.
I asked her why she felt she deserved this sort of pain. She said she didn’t deserve anything else as she had been treated badly by men all her life. She had been frequently assaulted by her father. She had had six partners in life, all of who had seriously physically and emotionally battered her.
And on top of that, she had been attacked by strangers twice. She said the problem was she just didn’t care what happened, so rather than do sensible things like take taxis home, she would just walk through alleys and not give a damn.
At that point I realise that I needed to get out quick. So I said I thought she needed to get some serious help with her mental issues, and well, wished her luck. What else can you say?
I often wonder what happened to Sarah. She was very pretty and seemed to have a heart of gold, but she had been utterly destroyed by the men in her life and the poor decisions she had made.
God only knows what happened to her and her six kids. I hope she found happiness somewhere and somehow.
Don’t Get Put Off Online Dating
Now I know I had an extreme experience in those six months. Because since then, I’ve met some lovely ladies and had some lovely dates. I’m still looking for a long-term partner, but I remain hopeful.
I think I just somehow walked into a perfect storm of damaged people. I’m sure other people have had my experience, and it does make you wonder how many damaged people are out there.
I suppose you can’t be upfront on a dating profile, and kudos to those girls for being up front at the earliest opportunity.
But it was still one hell of a shock and it started to put me off dating forever. I had to have a break, before going back into the dating game.
Hopefully you will not experience the extreme examples I have, and hopefully you will have never have experienced what these poor people did in their lives, or been the cause of such pain yourself.
Good luck with your search.