The sad truth is that there are many reasons that people get down about dating.
There are several key reasons why this happens and what people don’t realise is that something which should be fun and lead to a relationship can often be quite a depressing process.
But what is it about dating that can get you down and how can you avoid it?
Online Dating Turns Into A Relentless Grind
If you seek a partner through online dating then quite often initial hope can turn into despair and hatred as the days turning to weeks without any luck.
You could be failing to get dates at all, order the opposite end of the scale you could be getting lots of dates but none of them are going any further.
Whatever the reason for failing, when it comes to online dating you should go back and reassess everything:
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Dates You Go On Just Don’t Feel Right
Whether you are going on a handful of dates, or out every night, meeting people can also get you down.
On an individual level, if the dates aren’t feeling right then your pre-date filtering skills are not good enough perhaps you should:
- Be more open when communicating via messaging prior to meeting
- Look at what is important to you and find out through questioning if they share it
- Use your intuition and trust your judgement before arranging a date
- Don’t be too hasty to jump into a date – you have time so don’t get desperate
when it comes to the overall volume of dates, if you are out to, three or four times a week dating dates very easy to become jaded.
It may feel like fun and it may feel like you are making progress in your life, but endlessly getting dressed up to sit sit there and go over the same questions and conversations can get monotonous.
On the other side of the coin, if you are not having much luck, it can be easy to jump and go out on a date whenever you do get asked.
Don’t get desperate if you are not going on many dates, all you are going to do is waste your time.
Know When It’s Time To Take A Break From Dating
The truth is we can get desperate when trying to find love, especially when it’s lonely.
There is no harm or shame in taking a break if you haven’t had any luck after a few months.
Sometimes taking a break for a few weeks, from online dating or going on actual dates, can make you feel refreshed and more vigilant about the people you arrange to meet.
The truth is that many of us try and fit people into our lives and list of wants and needs, when the reality is that the person we are trying to fit in is simply not right for us.
The great news is that when you meet the right person you will know in a very short space of time.
So take a break if you’re feeling jaded and if you are not sure you are adopting the right strategy in your dating, take a look at some of the resources available to help you, or download our free strategy guide by entering your email address below.